You are essentially a kink-shaming dickhead.
Two or three people that have just discussed, with me, your post about BDSM relationships or ‘kink’ relationships and their correlation to an individual receiving orgasms have deemed it ‘kink-shaming’.
While you may have previously experienced a traumatic experience it does not give you full right to label all relationships that have “abuse that gets you off” as ‘abusive’. ABUSE AND PAIN FOR SEXUAL GRATIFICATION ARE NOT THE SAME THING.
Had you have even done ANY research into the matter whatsoever you would have discovered that while, yes, there are some abusive relationships within the kink community just as there are also plenty within EVERY OTHER COMMUNITY. Also, had you read any further into the information that is readily available at your little radfem fingertips you would have discovered that, LO AND BEHOLD, there are plenty of safe measures installed within a kink relationship to ensure that while the individual fulfills what they want for their own pleasure they are kept safe. There are safe words established, extremities protected if the individual enjoys auto-erotic asphyxiation to ensure that they do not pass out. It is also recommended by many of those who dabble in this and many environments such as online forums and other sites which will assist to keep the relationship between the two individuals as safe as possible.
While you are entitled to your opinion, your statement is extremely close minded and if you were a proper feminist that you are you would not allow yourself to kink-shame to the same extent that you do not allow yourself to slut shame.
It is not your right to tell people that what they enjoy/what they like and what feels good is wrong.
Believe me though, I have been in both situations: abuse and abuse for sexual gratification and trust me, they are not the same thing.
Please just educate yourself on the style of relationship before you hold such a close minded view.